What makes a woman ugly? Is it bad hair or blotchy skin? The world would tell us that a woman is determined to be lovely or ugly based merely on how she looks on the outside, but I have seen women who appear to be beautiful but inwardly they were full of poison and death. Have you ever known a woman who, on first impression, does appear to be pretty, but after you get to know her her character takes over and she becomes ugly? One trait of ugliness is meanness. It can quickly make an attractive woman unattractive.
Kindness, on the other hand, is a jewel that beautifies a woman. It is a jewel that is granted to us through Jesus Christ and polished through faith and obedience.
The word is generally used to designate the little deeds of thoughtfulness and gentleness which make no noise and attract no notice (J.R. Miller). Miller calls kindness the “small coin of love”.
Kindness has two sides, the soft side and the harder side.
The Soft Side of Kindness
There is a soft and gentle side of kindness that is seen in people using their manners, parents showing interest in what their children are excited about or interested in, and friends spending time with each other when they are down or hurting. It is seen in siblings cheerfully sharing their toys because they know it will bring joy to another or in a Mother speaking sweetly to her children instead of commanding them around like an army official. Or what about letting a stranger cut in front of you at the store or smiling at the elderly person who is taking a long time crossing the street?
Kindness invests in the lives of others in small and quiet ways.
What is so beautiful about a kind person is that their actions are done unconsciously without much forethought. It flows from a heart that cares about others and does not expect reward or praise in return.
The Hard side of Kindness
There is another side to kindness that is a bit more difficult to live out. A person who posses the jewel of kindness will speak truth even when the words are hard and possibly a bit awkward.
It is unkind to let a friend live in sin, it is unkind to let an unbeliever believe a lie and it is unkind to let children live without consequences.
This hard side of kindness is more concerned about the wellbeing of another and the truth of God’s word than their own comfort. It cares more for the honor of God’s name than their own honor.
The soft and hard side of kindness work together. It is the sweetness in speech and attitude that makes the hard words more palatable and bear fruit.
The jewel of kindness is beautiful because it is a picture of Christ. He was compassionate and gentle and yet he always spoke the truth and honored his Father. Kindness is a jewel that will add beauty to our soul and the more we follow Christ the more brightly it will shine.