There is brand new marriage book on the market written by Darlene Schacht. The title says it all, "Messy Beautiful Love", isn’t that what our marriages are like? While many of us may have had (or still have) romantic notions of what our marriages would be like, it doesn’t take long for reality to hit and for our eyes to be opened to the fact that marriage, while wonderful is messy. I have had the privilege of becoming friends with Darlene and I can tell you that her passion for marriage is evident in her writings and in her conversations.
I love darlene’s open vulnerability as she shares the messy parts of her marriage. But she doesn’t wallow in that mess. Instead, she acknowledges her brokenness and her need for the grace of God in her life and in the life of her marriage.
If you want to build a strong beautiful marriage despite it's messiness you must put Christ at it's center.
Here are a few questions that she answers regarding her new book.
1. Why did you write Messy Beautiful Love and what do you hope it accomplishes?
I wrote it to encourage women in their marriages, and to remind them that they’re not alone on this journey. We all struggle in this life, and if we haven’t yet it’s inevitable that we will. That’s why it’s imperative that we equip ourselves by studying the gospel and keeping our marriage in prayer. Love is a beautiful thing, but the reality is that life is messy at times. When we live out our roles in marriage as God ordained them to be we discover joy and peace unlike anything else.
2. How is Messy Beautiful Love different from other books on marriage and relationships?
Because I’ve been through a lot in my own marriage, I understand the importance of grace and forgiveness. I offer hope to women where hope would be otherwise lost. Can a broken marriage be repaired? Can a stale relationship be revived? Messy Beautiful Love answers those questions with a resounding “Yes!”
3. Your book is called, Messy Beautiful Love. Can you tell us why you chose that name?
We all have expectations when we’re stepping into marriage. And if you’re like most women, those expectations are high, but the reality is that life gets messy. Whether it’s financial problems, sickness, aging parents, or an unhappy spouse, sooner or later we’ll have a mess to clean up.
But when we surrender our relationship to God in obedience to His will, we experience the blessings of marriage as He intended. That’s a beautiful thing.
4. Who do you think will benefit most from Messy Beautiful Love, and why?
Women who are seeking more for their marriage will benefit most from my book. More than a story or simply feel-good information, Messy Beautiful Love challenges women to grow in love by putting Christ at the center of marriage.
I’m a cracked vessel held together by grace, whose deepest desire is to encourage you in your marriage. I don’t have it all figured out, and I doubt that I ever will, but I’m learning to lean on the One who does. I’m learning that when I follow His wisdom in lieu of my own, I’m walking in peace, and that peace floods into my marriage.
5. Why is this book important and relevant in today’s culture?
What we’re seeing too often is a society that’s tossing marriage aside. This world is cynical when it comes to marriage, believing most won’t last. And those that do last? Well, surely one spouse or the other must be a miserable soul. That’s what we tend to see when we look at the standard this world has to offer.
God’s standard, on the other hand, is rich. He offers abundant life to those who are exercised by faith. We serve a God who’s the same yesterday, today and forever. The beauty of the marriage covenant hasn’t changed over time—our view of it has. Those who give up too soon are missing out on the blessings that come with staying the course.
Check out this book. It may be just what your marriage needs.
And check out her blog at timewarpwife.com if you want to be encouraged and challenged in your marriage.