Every woman, whether she is single, married, and/or a mom, is responsible for a little kingdom. “Home” is its name and her position is that of “Queen Consort”. (That’s what John A. James said a few hundred years ago. I like that. It makes me feel like I should walk around with a tiara.) But to carry out our role in this kingdom one thing is desperately needed.
I think all Christians want to be like Jesus and have him stamp his image onto our hearts. But do you know what his image looks like? It’s not the picture of a high and mighty king in all its finery and pomp. It is the picture of a servant. Just as Christ became a servant to us so we are to be be a servant to others, especially those within our kingdom (Matt 20:28). So off with the crown and on with the apron! Just kidding you can keep the crown on too. :)
What was Jesus like? As the servant king he held authority, but it was coupled with truth, meekness, gentleness and kindness (just to name a few).
Here is the thing; talking about being like Jesus is not Christlikeness. Imitating Jesus is Christlikeness and that is what we need to give our energy to.
We hold God given authority in our kingdom home. Those of us who have children need to make sure that this authority is recognized by these little ones. We must teach respect and honor, but that means that we must be Queen Consorts who are respectable and honorable in our own conduct.
Meekness is the ability to suffer well, to forgive quickly, and to repay evil with good. Isn’t that what we see in Jesus? To suffer well when our patience is tested, when the noise level is beyond bearable, when the siblings are quarreling, when attitudes flare up, or the same lessons must be taught over and over again. It is the opposite of anger, malice, revenge and evil-speaking. It is a kind of patience.
Gentleness and Kindness
I have this terrible habit of speaking to the children like a drill sergeant. “Pick up your shoes, time to sit down, come here, do your math…” Half the time I don’t realize I am doing it until everyone is in bed and I think back over my day. It’s something I have been praying God would change in me because it lacks gentleness.
Gentleness is seen in soft speech, a mild temper, and a sweet disposition. It is the opposite of harshness, roughness, crabbiness, or sourness.
a soft tongue will break a bone. Proverbs 25:15b
Jesus is truth. He spoke it and lived it, whether people were around to see our not. In our imitation of Jesus truth must be held high. We must speak truth even if it is hard or uncomfortable. We must study it so that we become very familiar with it. This will keep us from holding man made rules at an inappropriate level.
The more we become like Jesus the more his character will become the ornaments of our lives in our little kingdoms. Our families should see how we love and admire Jesus, and should receive the blessing of that love. We must do everything to make Christ, the perfect Servant King, look beautiful to everyone around us.
We are royal sisters who have been given a place to serve others as we follow Jesus. I I pray that we make following him our priority and delight and that those we serve will be blessed.
To read more from John Angell James, check out his classic work, Female Piety. It’s one of my favorites.